The Awkwardness of Writing Romance

Storyboard for The Queen Animated Trailer

"How do you write romance?"

I often get asked this question by people who know me, because they simply don't understand how it's possible. Now, I'm not too offended, because it's easy to see how there's a mystery.

I've been raised in a traditional family, my father is a pastor, and I have taken an oath to remain a virgin until marriage. I don't dabble in anything half way or get too physically close and try to shortcut. As a matter of fact, I've actually never been kissed and I may wait until my wedding day for it. I'm undecided on the matter. Now, it's not that I'm an old maid. I am very welcome to romance, marriage, and especially having a family. If the right man comes along, I say let's not waste time!

So it's not really so much about writing the romance. The question is really how is it possible that I write kissing scenes and so on.

But if you read Sunrise Sunset, The Queen, or Almost Alive, you wouldn't suspect that the plot was the only thing I was making up. 

Of course I have sources that I can ask, or questions I can google, or I can re-watch a scene from The Vampire Diaries or another show. But I never get too deep into describing something physical, because that's a personal choice. I would rather let someone's imagination wander or stop, because it's sort of a private matter to me, I suppose.

However, my characters are deeply connected and rather intimate at times. I do this by focusing on the emotional development of the situation rather than the physical manifestation. I could choose to write something vulgar, but I instead choose to write how the two characters are feeling in the moment so it can evolve their relationship instead of being general smut. There's still enough explanation as to what's going on so you know it's a make out scene or leading into sex, but no more than that. 

I don't want to feel guilty about a young lady reading my books. I don't want parents to feel like I've gone too far and they can't trust me with the innocence of their child

As far as the very cute and endearing relationship between Roxy and Adam from Sunrise Sunset, or the sarcastic and dramatic relationship between Michelle and Julian from Almost Alive, I let these voices speak uniquely to each other. When I begin a story, I don't know how it's gonna end, but I know my characters and how they would react. They have their own voices, and I don't have to really think too much on how they would react. It sort of just flows together, as well as their dialogue and actions with one another. I let them live and breathe through my fingertips. 

I suppose it's nothing different than a relationship in real life. If you want a stable relationship, you have to come to terms with who you are first before you can learn who you are with someone else. Recognize the voice of your characters and when they are thrown in together, it should be easy to see how they interact with one another.

I think the dialogue between characters are so much more powerful than just making two people hump to death or suck face all the time. Obviously, we're talking about books. From a visual standpoint, I remember when I saw The Watchmen and I was so grossed out how Nite Owl and Silk Spectre continuously kept having sex, even though they really didn't seem to care for each other. They even left out one final sex scene that was in the comic book. If the point was that they were sluty, I got that. If they were supposed to connect on a deeper level because they had sex, it didn't happen for me. When I compare that to a Dove deodorant commercial with a groom tenderly nuzzling his bride's arm while they both blissfully smiled, I got so much more of a reaction from the sexy subtleness of that commercial than that Rated R film, or even most television shows that I watch. It was tender, very intimate, and left a lot up to imagination before it got too much deeper. I admire that, and I suppose that's the approach that I prefer to take.

Readers need to be engaged and invested in the journey of two people. One reason why so many women like the two opposites or the two people that are the same and clash because they're so stubborn is because they are bantering back and forth all the time (hopefully it's witty and entertaining) and sexual chemistry is evident. I enjoy the sexual chemistry between my characters Lyla and Adam and the no slack attitude between Rose and Austin from The Queen.

Characters that are sweet need to play greatly to the imagination of a woman. Too many women fantasize about a bad boy turning good, but there are women that like to root for a sweet boy like Austin's rival, Noah, or Edward Cullen. Of course, if your heroine does anything wrong, she won't deserve this perfect guy.

In conclusion, I would say never write something that you would be uncomfortable with. Make a relationship moment monumental to the plot and not a throwaway fluff piece because of the heck of it. Make sure that your characters are being true to what you've established them to be.

That's what works for me.

The Plight of a Black Author

So, I thought this was pretty interesting while I was in New York for BEA and Book Con.  I had all eight of my books out on display, and most people were amazed by my covers, especially The Color of God’s Eyes and The Light Book: Awakening.  Eventually, I had an African American woman stop at my booth and she seemed puzzled, and then, a little indignant.  She said, “I’m just curious.  How come there aren’t more people of color on your covers?”

Then, I was puzzled.  My featured poster is of Charlotte, a slave whose story is not only compelling but very empowering.  Out of my eight books, this is the one I’ve been sending emails about and getting interviews for.  This is my main baby of interest.  Then I quickly pointed to Superkid, which features an obviously black girl with naturally poofy hair, a Chinese boy, and a half Mexican boy.  All three of these children are on the cover.  After pointing this out, I received a, “Yeah, but…” response.

I then told her that The Light Book: Awakening features a very diverse cast.  It takes place on earth, but it’s an alternate earth.  The children aren’t from our countries as we know them, but for the sake of relating them, I would say there are two white European children, two South American children (one of them is Albino), two white children that would be in the U.S. territory, a Japanese girl, and a black girl that does have some European white roots as well.  And her chapter largely deals with racism.  This, you cannot tell by a cover.  That’s why there’s the saying: “You can’t always judge a book by its cover”.

Sunrise Sunset has a white girl on the cover.  She got me on that one.  Her love interest is mixed.  Almost Alive has a white girl.  Becoming Undone has a white man, but actually, the model looks a little bit Middle Eastern.  But when I pointed to that series, I said teasingly, “These two are demon possessed.  You don’t want them to be black!”  But the most powerful character in the series that everyone looks up to is an elderly black woman.

I even told her about my character, Briana, who was one of the very first characters I created that is loosely based off of my sister, Sabrina.  She’s a part of my Superficial series, which isn’t ready to be released yet only because it’s so incredibly close to my heart. 

So after defending myself to her, I got bold and said, “Since you wanted to criticize me for the lack of diversity, how about you support me and purchase a book?”  And then, I pointed to the most obvious black character, Charlotte.

She said, “No.  I was just curious what goes through the authors’ minds...”  She smiled and just kind of played it off like it wasn’t a big deal to her, even though she tried to put me on blast.  But she rubbed me the wrong way because I didn’t see someone who came to support one of her own.  She wanted to criticize.  Now maybe she just didn’t have the money to buy a book, and that’s fine.  But her attitude was combative, and all I’m trying to do is live my dream.

As a black author, I have had conversations with people close to me about how if I don’t have black characters, I will be checked by people of my race.  Now, I have always had black characters from the first book I wrote to the first one I actually had published.  But I think I’d face another problem anyway, because I don’t always want to write stereotypical black characters.  And to some black people, if you’re just some “Oreo”, then you don’t count anyway.  The Cosby Show was a fantastic sitcom, but I know blacks that believe it is a terrible representation of black America because they say black families aren’t like that.  But while growing up, my household was a lot more like the Huxtables or the Winslows rather than any of the ratchetness that is displayed on BET.  Growing up, I was criticized because I spoke very proper in my urban school.  Someone accused me of “trying to act white”.  This sort of ignorance is sadly a common occurrence.

I have characters that are black and fit in some stereotypes, some in the middle, and some that will only be identifiable as “black” because of the pigmentation of their skin.  That doesn’t make any of them less or more black.  The problem with creating a niche of urban characters that would mostly appeal to black readers is when someone like my criticizer comes by and does a lot of talk but doesn’t want to support.  I hashtag #WENEEDDIVERSEBOOKS all of the time, but I’m not really getting any retweets.  Now, I don’t want people just to support me just because I’m black.  I want people to love my stories because I’m a fantastic writer with an amazing imagination.  However, it does move me when someone wants to show support whether it be because I’m black, young, a woman, or an indie author doing this on my own. 

I mean no disrespect to those who write primarily urban books.  You do you.  I’ll be me.  But I have observed that if you’re a black author, it’s expected that those are the types of books you should be writing.  Sci-fi black authors seems to be rare (unless you’re at a comic con).

I decided a long time ago that I was gonna write exactly what I wanted to write.  When I make a story and create a character, I’m compelled to tell their story.  I don’t have a race quota, and I’m not going to hinder my characters like that either.  Just telling the stories I wanted to tell has already given me a very diverse group of characters.

Honestly, I’m very proud of Charlotte because she is such a strong heroine, and I think we’re sadly lacking in strong female characters, but there’s especially a shortage when it comes to black women.  I love Kiara from Superkid.  Besides her outrageous hair, the most striking characteristic is her unparalleled intelligence.   Briana from Superficial is very moral.  Nilliana from The Light Book is extremely caring and will put others before herself.

I’m comfortable in the stories that I tell and the characters that I create.  I want my stories to transcend all barriers.  I would like to believe that all races can appreciate their struggles and their triumphs.  They are worth more to me than a niche.